Living in the Now. Be Ready. The “Now” May Find You.

Living in the Now. Be Ready. On Being a Person,  Are We What We Contribute? (Disclaimer.  I firmly promised no ‘diary’ posts or–gasp–anything that has a scent of political issues.  I don’t for a moment think my life is so interesting the world can’t do without hearing about it. Still, I couldn’t resist sharing this moment in hopes one other person who, like me, thinks and talks about social justice but does little–may be touched or moved and touch someone else.  If I–one of those people who switches channels when the starving children standing in doorways with sad big eyes flash …

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“Should You Care What Other People Think?” Self Esteem vs. Self Centered.

Should You Care What Other People Think?  Self Esteem vs. Self Centered. You might be surprised at the answer.  The ways concern for “what other people think” influences our lives is not simple.  Knee-jerk responses are not answers.   Sometimes ‘caring what other people think’ is about more than a contest of wills. I came across a good example to demonstrate this idea in—believe it or not—a Jennifer Anniston comedy.  The example is played out in the mis-connections of a couple featured in Friends with Money –which could have been titled Couples with Problems. I have often heard the words …

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Life, Death, Self-esteem, and Writing Stories, Part 1

Life, Death, Self-esteem, and Writing Stories, Part 1 This article was written as a guest post on the blog of Literary Agent Helen Zimmermann who has Project Publish, a helpful blog for aspiring writers. The topic of my entry is the emotional side of writing—specifically on how your life can go in the dumper when you select any outside measurement to decide whether or not you are an okay person, an outstanding person, or a loser. ‘Loser’ is a harsh word, but then we are pretty horrible to ourselves when we fail to live up to, or believe we have …

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Robin Williams, Oh How We Loved You, Depression is Real.

Robin Williams, Oh How We Loved You. Depression is Real. I started MysteryShrink as one answer to a question that is with me daily.  “What have you contributed today to make a difference to the emotional suffering of people?” The question is the same every day.  How can I take what I’ve learned in training, study, writing, and life and give something back?  Add to the beauty of one person’s day?  Add a smile?  Help others take life more seriously and themselves less seriously?  See the love in humanness?  Bring us together in love?  Not be so afraid of the …

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