This is the hard part.  I’ve had graduate students who, after two years on what it is to be a SELF DEFINED person, still don’t get this part.  And, without being able to know, feel, get a grip on SELF FOCUS, not much else is possible.

     How can you better manage your anxiety if you can’t get a grip on what you are focusing on? 

     How can you better manage your anxiety if you are convinced SOMEONE else     is CAUSING it? 

SELF FOCUS is pulling your energy back inside yourself and PAYING ATTENTION to WHAT’S GOING on    inside YOU instead of investing your energy in figuring what others are doing, particularly what they are doing wrong.