What are you saying, doc? Change? 
Me?
Noooooooooooooo.
“Aren’t you supposed to be an expert at listening?”
“You’re not validating my feelings.”
“If you were any good at this, you could see that nothing is my fault.”
It’s those other people. 
They have many problems.
If you understood what I’ve been telling you, you would explain to me how I can
keep doing what I’m already doing . . .
. . . And, get different results.
If an addiction is anything you can’t stop doing . . .
(even when it’s become self-destructive)
And you can’t stop “automatically” over-reacting emotionally . . . can’t stop worrying . . . 
can’t stop arguing . . . can’t stop hurrying your responses . . . can’t
stop blaming . . .
. . . are you ADDICTED?
I’m overstating the case here. We toss out “addiction” to cover too many
behaviors already and tend to label people as addicted to certain behaviors just
because . . . 
we don’t approve of their behavior.
The idea is to think about our habitual responses.
If we didn’t have a contribution to our response, we have no power to change it.
