Going with the Flo

Impractical Psychology On this New Year’s my mind goes back to Ellen, the thirty-three-year old mother with breast cancer who, after she’d been informed that she had from twenty-four to forty-eight of consciousness left, called me for help. Me? What did I know? I was a twenty-five-year psychologist barely out …

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Have you ever said “yes” when you meant “no”?

Practical Psychology: What Works and What’s Nuts Have you ever been in a relationship in which you felt ‘who you are’ was slip-slipping away? Maybe you stopped seeing your friends or family as often. Or you changed the way you dressed or the way you ordered from a menu. Not …

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If You Have No Part in the Problem, You Have to Power to Improve the Situation

Practical Psychology: What Works and What’s Nuts . . . For any change effort to make a difference in a relationship or experience, we must switch attention away from what other people are thinking and doing and direct attention toward thinking about and better understanding our own emotions and behavior. …

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Me Change? You’re Kidding, Right?

Practical Psychology: What Works and What’s Nuts …I have fired only one client. Mrs. X. Mrs. X, a fifty-one-year-old divorcee, came to see me because she’d heard that I work from a theory of family systems and she had a family problem. Or, at least her daughter and her husband …

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