A Psychologist on the Loose
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You See What You Believe
The saying goes, “I’ll believe it when I see it.” This is not how the human mind works. We cannot see what we do not “believe.” We cannot STOP seeing what we DO believe.
What does this have to do with relationships? What does this have to do with being a happier person?
When we BELIEVE the other person is noticing us for our IMPERFECTIONS, almost any comment they make is taken as CRITICISM.
More later.
How to Be Fabulous
“The most important, most life-determining, conversation you have, is the conversation you have with yourself.”
What have you told yourself about you so far today? Okay, now that we KNOW: People who SEE THEMSELVES as BETTER LIKED than they actually are . . .
As more SUCCESSFUL than they are . . .
As more ATTRACTIVE than they are . . .
As more INTELLIGENT than they are . . .
Those people have MORE FUN in life.
Hey, I’m for more fun. But I’m tired and envious just from making the above list. Reading it doesn’t MAKE ME feel refreshed and ready to hit Broadway. What I’m thinking is, “Sheesh, what’s wrong with me More >
WHY depending on the OTHER PERSON for maintaining SELF ESTEEM does NOT WORK
”Hey, buddy, I’m not feeling so good about myself. Do something to fix me!”
Bad news. No matter how hard you try–how skinny, sexy, funny, good at the house, cooking, or whatever, you are– Relying on other people to keep you liking yourself WILL NOT WORK.
Why and damn, you say?
Here you are this lovely person, doing what you usually do, being yourself, which he liked yesterday and now he has a problem with you. You’re too controlling–
Truth from Last Therapist Standing: Everyone is controlling. We’re designed to “want” our own way. There’s nothing wrong with that. Some of More >