Me Change? You’re Kidding, Right?

Practical Psychology: What Works and What’s Nuts …I have fired only one client. Mrs. X. Mrs. X, a fifty-one-year-old divorcee, came to see me because she’d heard that I work from a theory of family systems and she had a family problem. Or, at least her daughter and her husband …

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Emotional Distance, Owen Wilson, and The Darjeeling Limited

Emotional Distance, Owen Wilson, and The Darjeeling Limited Part 1. Brothers on a Train What would you do if a psychologist suggested that to truly resolve current self-destructive habits, you must get straight—comfortable and ‘real’– with your family? Would you: Demand your money back and accuse the therapist of conspiracy …

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The Thirteen Brooms: Criticism and Anxiety

The Thirteen Brooms Criticism Is an Expression of Anxiety To be married is to be criticized. To be a child is to be criticized. To be a parent is to be criticized. To grow up in a world not designed to meet our needs above all others–is to be criticized. …

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Did You Ever Want to Be Anyone Else? (Re-post Due to Technical Send Error)

Did You Ever Want to Be Anyone Else? Did You? The Story: Easy Rider meets The Quiet American and both dance with Little Miss Sunshine. How to Choose a Psychologist: I ask you, “What possible good can any psychologist be to you if she can’t– out of nowhere, out of nothing, ‘back into’ …

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“Oh Dear Me!” The Most Dangerous Criticism is Criticism of Yourself

The Most Dangerous Criticism is Criticism of Yourself Dateline: Cabo San Jose. They’re always finding fugitives here. Or at least they do on the many crime shows I watch with abandon. There’s a guy at the next table who’s a dead ringer for the most unlucky guy in the world. …

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“What’s Wrong with You?” Criticism, Part Two.

“What’s Wrong with You?” Criticism, Part Two. Dateline: In the air over New Mexico, American Airlines Flight 78. It’s crowded up here in the clouds because New Mexicans levitate with the ease that you and I eat breakfast. I almost talked myself out of writing this element of “Conquering Criticism …

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