Complaining is Bad for Your Health: “Eat it the Way It Is!”

Complaining is Bad for Your Health: “Eat it the Way It Is!” Back in graduate school I had a course in behavior modification design. The first assignment was to set up a plan to alter a self-destructive behavior of our own. Of course, the instructor did not recognize that, just …

Continue reading

Miss Me? I’m Not That Crazy

Miss Me? I’m Not That Crazy! The availiability of putting our words on the fabulous World Wide Web has left each of us with the impression that we are much more important than we actually are. We are even taught tricks to bubble up hit statistics and further over-estimate our …

Continue reading

Bendicio Man, He Loves You

      Bendicio Man Having seen Bendicio (Blessing) man several times in different cities, I asked what he was about. He answered: “Love” . . .  in at least eight languages. He took time to tell this silly tourist type scurrying across Mexico City’s grand Reforma–patterned after the Avenue …

Continue reading

The Opposite of Love is Using People

The Opposite of Love is Using People How Far Would You Go to Be a Winner? One of the Envied People? **This entry was difficult for me to write. The story is true and disturbing. At least I was disturbed. I don’t know that readers who have grown up blasted …

Continue reading

The Opposite of Love, People as Products

The Opposite of Love is Not Hate: It’s Using People How to Sell Lots of Books I hunched down in an end seat on the back row of the Century City Los Angeles Hyatt Hotel auditorium. My presence was forced labor, a contract requirement from a publisher. The publisher had …

Continue reading

How to Be a Loving, but Separate Person, Hawaiian Pineapple Cake

How to Be a Loving but Separate Self…Otherwise you will drift between faking agreement and hiding anger. MysteryShrink Short: Love and Boundaries FOOD, Pineapple Upside Down Cake The couple had just finished the last meal of their magical Hawaiian honeymoon. The gazed into each other’s eyes. The fragrance of blossoms …

Continue reading

How to Be a Loving, But Separate Self, Wedding Cake

How to Be a Loving but Separate Self…Otherwise you will drift between faking agreement and hiding anger. MysteryShrink Short: Love and Boundaries FOOD, Wedding Cake Leftovers The wedding had been held one on of those flowing green lawns behind Southern mansions, shaded by ancient and glorious oak trees hung with …

Continue reading